{"id":653,"date":"2015-04-28T02:26:17","date_gmt":"2015-04-28T02:26:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/fatwa-tt.com\/?p=653"},"modified":"2017-11-08T23:17:54","modified_gmt":"2017-11-09T03:17:54","slug":"advice-on-troubles-of-being-unmarried","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fatwa-tt.com\/index.php\/advice-on-troubles-of-being-unmarried\/","title":{"rendered":"Advice on troubles of being unmarried."},"content":{"rendered":"

Question:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

As salaam walakum mufti . I am female 40yrs old I have a problem. I am unmarried n it has never bothered me at all I understand everything happens when the time is rite and that Allah has a plan for each of us, but the thing is every one throws it in my face that in still unmarried I have family members that mock and give me names coz I am un married. It hurts soo much and now I\u2019m starting to feel very very depressed also recently some thing did not work out in my favour and the boy married someone very educated and now every one throws that In my face that he married a very educated girl etc. I\u2019m very very depressed please advice. JazakAllah may Allah reward you<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Answer:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

As-sal\u0101mu \u2018alaykum wa-rahmatull\u0101hi wa-barak\u0101tuh.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Sister in Islam,<\/span><\/p>\n

Life is like sailing across the Atlantic; at times one is blessed with warmth, welcoming and smooth conditions and at times, one has to survive cold, dark and bumpy situations.<\/span><\/p>\n

Difficult and challenging situations are inevitably experienced by everyone at some point in life. These conditions are tests from Allah Ta\u2019ala in order to elevate their status and increase their blessings. By enduring these hardships and having Sabr<\/em> (patience) and I<\/em>\u1e25<\/em>tis\u0101b<\/em> (hoping the reward from Allah) one\u2019s sins can be purified and luxurious positions be gained in Jannah.<\/span><\/p>\n

Rasulullah Sallallahu Alahi WaSallam said,<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0623\u064e\u0646\u0651\u064e \u0639\u064e\u0627\u0626\u0650\u0634\u064e\u0629\u064e \u0631\u064e\u0636\u0650\u064a\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0647\u064f \u0639\u064e\u0646\u0652\u0647\u064e\u0627 \u0632\u064e\u0648\u0652\u062c\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0646\u0651\u064e\u0628\u0650\u064a\u0651\u0650 \u0635\u064e\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0647\u064f \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0647\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0633\u064e\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0645\u064e \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e\u062a\u0652 \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e \u0631\u064e\u0633\u064f\u0648\u0644\u064f \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0647\u0650 \u0635\u064e\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0647\u064f \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0647\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0633\u064e\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0645\u064e \u0645\u064e\u0627 \u0645\u0650\u0646\u0652 \u0645\u064f\u0635\u0650\u064a\u0628\u064e\u0629\u064d \u062a\u064f\u0635\u0650\u064a\u0628\u064f \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0645\u064f\u0633\u0652\u0644\u0650\u0645\u064e \u0625\u0650\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0627 \u0643\u064e\u0641\u0651\u064e\u0631\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0647\u064f \u0628\u0650\u0647\u064e\u0627 \u0639\u064e\u0646\u0652\u0647\u064f \u062d\u064e\u062a\u0651\u064e\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0634\u0651\u064e\u0648\u0652\u0643\u064e\u0629\u0650 \u064a\u064f\u0634\u064e\u0627\u0643\u064f\u0647\u064e\u0627(\u0627\u0644\u0645\u0633\u0644\u0645)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

“<\/strong>There is no difficulty that befalls a Muslim except that Allah removes that person\u2019s sins because of it, even if a thorn pricks him.”<\/em>(Muslim (5640<\/span><\/p>\n

Never should one surrender to the challenges of life. The negative attitude of others towards you should be ignored completely. Their lack of understanding and repugnant attitude should not dampen your courage and Tawwakul( reliance) on Allah Ta\u2019ala.<\/span><\/p>\n

You know your feelings and wants. You cannot simply get married to please people and keep them quiet.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sister, our advice is for you is that you ponder upon the innumerable bounties of Allah Ta\u2019ala upon you. Think of those who are more disadvantaged than you. How many women are in misery despite being married\u2026would you prefer being single without problems or married with problems? Give thanks to Allah for blessing you with Iman, health a home and a family.<\/span><\/p>\n

Moreover, implore Allah Ta\u2019ala in Dua to grant you ease and comfort and a pious spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n

You should recite the following Dua:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0625\u0650\u0646\u064e\u0651\u0627 \u0644\u0650\u0644\u064e\u0651\u0647\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0625\u0650\u0646\u064e\u0651\u0627 \u0625\u0650\u0644\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0647\u0650 \u0631\u064e\u0627\u062c\u0650\u0639\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e\u060c \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647\u064f\u0645\u064e\u0651 \u0623\u0652\u062c\u064f\u0631\u0652\u0646\u0650\u064a \u0641\u0650\u064a \u0645\u064f\u0635\u0650\u064a\u0628\u064e\u062a\u0650\u064a\u060c \u0648\u064e\u0623\u064e\u062e\u0652\u0644\u0650\u0641\u0652 \u0644\u0650\u064a \u062e\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0631\u064b\u0627 \u0645\u0650\u0646\u0652\u0647\u064e\u0627<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

We belong to Allah and to Him shall we return; O Allah, reward me for my affliction and give me something better than it in exchange for it.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Also the following Duas may be recited for attaining a suitable spouse,<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0631\u064e\u0628\u064e\u0651\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u0647\u064e\u0628\u0652 \u0644\u064e\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u0645\u0650\u0646\u0652 \u0623\u064e\u0632\u0652\u0648\u064e\u0627\u062c\u0650\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u0648\u064e\u0630\u064f\u0631\u0650\u0651\u064a\u064e\u0651\u0627\u062a\u0650\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u0642\u064f\u0631\u064e\u0651\u0629\u064e \u0623\u064e\u0639\u0652\u064a\u064f\u0646\u064d \u0648\u064e\u0627\u062c\u0652\u0639\u064e\u0644\u0652\u0646\u064e\u0627 \u0644\u0650\u0644\u0652\u0645\u064f\u062a\u064e\u0651\u0642\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0625\u0650\u0645\u064e\u0627\u0645\u064b\u0627 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Our Sustainer, Grant us the coolness of our eyes from our spouses and children, and make us leaders of the pious.\u201d (Qur\u0101n 25:74)<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u0631\u064e\u0628\u0650\u0651 \u0625\u0650\u0646\u0650\u0651\u064a \u0644\u0650\u0645\u064e\u0627 \u0623\u064e\u0646\u0632\u0644\u0652\u062a\u064e \u0625\u0650\u0644\u064e\u064a\u064e\u0651 \u0645\u0650\u0646\u0652 \u062e\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0631\u064d \u0641\u064e\u0642\u0650\u064a\u0631\u064c<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

O My Rabb! Indeed I am needy of whatever good you bestow on me. (Qur\u0101n 28:24)<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And Allah Ta\u2019\u0101la Knows Best<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Mufti Arshad Ali<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Iftaa, Jaamia Madinatul Uloom (Trinidad)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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