Is getting married without parents’ knowledge acceptable?

Question:

Assalaam walaikum..i am 19yrs old girl where my father is muslim but he is no more now ..and my mother is christian ..from past some yrs I have started learning abt islam..now my question is I am loving a boy n wishing to get marry to that guy..but both families r not ready for the marriage..is that acceptable to get marry without parents knowledge if yes what is the procedure..plz guide me.

 

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Sister in Islam,

May Allah Ta’ala keep you firm and steadfast on Islam. Ameen

In an ideal family situation, we emphasize on consulting with ones parents in major issues of life, especially in marriage related issues. We understand your situation and we comprehend that you do not have the best advantage of consulting with your parents due to their beliefs and lifestyle.

You are an adult. Shariah permits you to make your independent choice in marriage. In choosing a spouse, you should exercise precaution. You are young and in view of your family background, do not allow yourself to make a wrong choice. Ensure the boy is conscious of Deen and Allah Ta’ala. A person who is conscious of Allah Ta’ala will be sensitive to the needs and comfort of his wife.

Enquire from appropriate people about the boy and also make Isitkhara. For that you may refer to http://www.askimam.org/public/question_detail/26652

Never ever rush in committing to marriage if you are unsure.

 

 And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mufti Arshad Ali.